Boomers Out of the Box: Single Seniors' Guide to Out-of-the-Box Thinking and Online Dating
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Social engagement is an essential component of healthy aging, and there are roughly 16 million single Boomers who may want to focus on relationship building, dating, and second chances but don't know where to begin.
Most Boomers have not dated for years or even decades. What methods can be employed to find potential partners or platonic friends? How do seniors effectively utilize online dating services? How do want-to-be daters overcome their fears of engagement and rejection? What types of relationships are individuals seeking, and how do they prepare to establish and make them sustainable? What about sex and intimacy, issues that may eventually play important roles?
Seniors are living longer than ever. After reaching 65 years old, average males can expect to live to 83 and females to 85. That's roughly 20 years and represents almost a third of an adult lifetime. It's critical not to squander this significant and precious time left, acting as though the game is over. There are so many ways to make the golden years fun and productive, to reset thoughtful goals, and pursue new dreams. Given the myriad changes currently taking place in society and technology, not only can the modern senior be busily engaged in childcare for their grandchildren, volunteer work, sports, and hobbies, but they can start new businesses, travel on senior tours, enroll in online and traditional educational courses, join physical fitness programs, find a new love, and participate in a million other activities.
We Boomers have shocked and annoyed the establishment since day one. We have questioned authority and refused to play by the legacy rules. We have rebelled against traditional gender roles, brought marijuana into the mainstream, and revolutionized sexual norms. So why stop now? As seniors, we may feel invisible to younger people, but do we really want to go quietly into the night? Nobody is looking at us, so let's break out of the box - again! Why not? Let's go out on fire. Let's do stuff.
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Publisher: Paul H. Lutton
Publication date: March 21, 2025
Language: English
Print length: 242 pages
ISBN-10: 173764102X
ISBN-13: 978-1737641025
Item Weight: 15.7 ounces
Dimensions: 6.14 x 0.55 x 9.21 inches
What Readers Are Saying
“For the first time I've found a book that addresses older adults and sees us as capturing a time in our life when we can have FUN!! (and Sex!!!)”
— Ellen Klutznick
“A wonderful resource; well researched, thoughtful, comprehensive, helpful and encouraging. A blessing for those seniors re-entering the dating world with understandable trepidation.”
— Robert Cantor
“It's a fun, fast read, and instructional at the same time. I was skeptical about reading a book on dating by a male, but Paul Lutton's "voice" is low key, humble, and makes you feel like you are talking to your best friend who's on this journey with you. Read it!!”
— Robin
“What a surprise! I'm 70, feel fine, didn't think I was looking for a new relationship (after 45 years of marriage) but I couldn't stop reading. The author tells his own story with such honesty and refreshing self-discovery and presents the sections in such accessible and easy to read form. Fascinating!”
— Leslie Mason
“The book offers useful information and detailed advice about internet dating for seniors (an especially relevant section) and the risks and benefits of sexual activity for the boomer generation. The writing is clear and highly readable, and down-to earth facts and advice are other useful features. I especially appreciated the well-curated bibliography, and links to relevant informational resources.”
— Ray R
“I'm 78 and I was looking for the last love of my life, but I was getting discouraged with online dating. Reading Boomers-Out-of-the-Box changed all that - both my attitude and my approach.”
— Bookie
About the Author
After 39 years of marriage and 12 years in a partnership ended by cancer, I found myself 73 years old and single. Over five years of impermanent successes and failures using online dating apps, I met my near-perfect match for a long-term lover and partner.
From my research, interviews, and dating experiences I’ve learned a great deal about myself, dating, and relationships. This has clarified reality and helped me to grow. Boomers Out of the Box shares my insights and experiences to benefit Boomers as they face the challenges of aging. To that end, I have also begun new services focused exclusively on seniors:
Dating Coaching: As a coach, offering online and face-to-face discussion and consultation in one-on-one as well as group formats.
Portraits: Providing photographs for senior men and women in the San Francisco Bay area that will capture their personalities and natural attractiveness; enhancing their ability to attract the matches they seek.
This Website: Offering curated content and a portal to other resources designed to present material that further elaborates on senior issues.
–Paul Lutton, Author & Founder
